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Originally Posted by Trace14
Wow, that sounds like a very difficult situation. Sounds like you need to set some boundaries . Is your brother living with you? Sit down with them and have a talk, express how serious you are about these concerns and that things need to change. Do you have a Therapist? Maybe he/she could do a group session for the family. Sounds like things do need to change, it's just finding that magic way of doing it. Take care.
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I am a very passive, and yes I do have a therapist. Yes my brother lives with us, if we hadn't gone to Florida, and brought him up here, he would be dead right now. A few days before we got him, he got drunk, and had a major fall, hitting his head. He started having major problems moving around, and by the time he had been up here a couple of weeks, he couldn't even walk. One evening he messed himself, and I had to clean him up. The very next day my husband, and I had to almost carry him to our car. We took him to the ER, they did tests, and he had emergency surgery on his cervical spine the next morning. we were told, if we hadn't gotten him in within the next 24 hours, he would have been a quadriplegic. He does have a spinal cord injury, but he can walk, drive ect, he has problems with his hands, and feet mostly. I would love a group session, but both of them wouldn't listen to any of it, if they would even go, witch I am positive they wouldn't. My life is a very difficult situation, but with my therapist's help, I am slowly learning how to handle toxic relationships. Unfortunately all three of us are disabled, and my brother doesn't have any where else to go. Of course the rest of my dysfunctional siblings don't have room for him, so it is on me. Thank you for your suggestions.





