That's really interesting. Thank you. There is and always has been a lot of silence in our sessions, and if I can tell T is engaged and we are connected then it isn't a problem, but when I can't, it is very hard. We have made a sign that I can point to to ask where she is, and it had things like 'thinking', 'holding back', 'quiet' on it, which she sometimes uses to tell me where she is, and it helps to calm the unsettledness and 'insert feeling I can't name' that I am experiencing. I couldn't cope with no silence, but wrong silence is too much for me. I totally understand that I am not easy, BTW!