jason is notorious for doing this. he has some crazy idea that if he speaks his mind to me im going to pack up and leave. finally after 2 years he started talking. and all the things that he kept bottled up are coming out now which im fine with because i want to know, but its like a slap in the face. because this whole time i thought whatever i was doing wasnt bad when it was... i think if you keep it inside one of 2 things will happen:

1. you will explode (or she will) and years of bad things will come pouring out and with that much crap, it will seem almost impossible to deal with and it will take much longer to heal than if you just spoke your mind.

or....

2. you will start to resent each other for things theyve done in the past that were never resolved. things will start to annoy you that have never annoyed you before. and then it will just boil over until youre totally faking your way through marriage.

those may sound like extremes but in my experience of watching marriages crumble, thats what happens. jason and i may feel like we fight constantly but typically theyre tiny fights that last maybe 10 minutes. and those tiny little fights are a lot better than one massive fight that crushes both of us. when we bottle things up we say things we dont mean when they finally come out.

it would absolutely bug the living crap out of me to know that someone has something on their mind and isnt expressing it to me.