I met up with my old t for social, non-therapy related things many times. We became good friends - or so I thought - while I was still in therapy with her. It made me feel very special in many ways. I thought my old t cared about me and that I was special to her, too. While I believe she did care about me best she knew how, she was using me to get some need of her own met. She sub/consciously disrespected my boundaries in order to gain something for herself. Obviously, this was all non therapeutic and unethical. But I can see where there could be circumstances when meeting outside of therapy would beneficial to the client, so long as the personal gain is for the client, not the therapist.