Shame is something a lot of people struggle with ((it'sgrowtime)). A lot of people get good at hiding it too. The problem that contributes to shame is how society tends to set us up for it because of how society has these ideas of what life is supposed to be. Society sends constant messages of how someone is supposed to strive for perfection, getting all A's and being the best at school, most popular, best hair, best eyes, who's the prettiest, who is the most likely to succeed. Then there is what's in to wear and the pressure that takes place to make sure you are wearing what's in style. Then there is a certain kind of house that one should have to prove they are some kind of success or have status or are important and worthy of respect. That old saying never really changed either "Keep up with the Jones's".

Only one person can be valedictorian so the one that came close is ashamed they did not quite make the grade. There is always some way of raising the bar, something to prove one is better than or at the very least qualifies for acceptance. One can be a strong person, yet not strong enough, one can be the nicest person, but not nice enough and there are so many "not enough's" and there always will be because no one is EVER perfect.