I think my T generally doesn't show a lot of herself to her clients. I don't think most have a need for it, the adults, that is, and probably wouldn't tend to ask too much. One if my first sessions I said I had some questions to ask my T and she was all like, "let's look at what that means to you to know those things" and I thought "oh, no, here we go...". I only wanted to know her favourite colour and how old she was, whether she used to be a teacher. She works with a lot of kids and I guess they must ask her stuff like that. I guess she probably answers some of them. She did answer my questions and has answered most of the ones I have asked since, though they aren't too invasive or deep. Stuff about where she is going on holiday. Building work being done. Garden plants etc. Mostly just as it arises in our time together. Saw her with her daughter once so asked questions about how many kids, grandkids etc. Which she answered, though I did already guess because there was a picture of them on a pen in her pen box, which I showed her. Must admit, I haven't checked it was there or not recently. Presume she may take it away so that others didn't see it.

She has said that it is a concern that things she tells me may change the way I see her, and I agree, which is why I am careful not to ask questions which I may not want to hear the answer to, but stuff like favourite colour, I mean come on. I don't understand how I can be expected to build a trusting relationship with someone who doesn't even trust me enough to tell me that! I am glad she understands my need for this and does it despite it not being the norm for her.