Lol.....I was trying so hard to not be like my mom. She had no idea how to stand up for anyone & especially not herself. When I told her how I stood up to the first employer I had who was trying to cheat me out of money, that was one of the many times she kidded me about being given the wrong baby when they left the hospital with me. But honestly she had no idea how I could do that....I ALWAYS LEARNED by what I didn't want to be like from my parents example. I would eliminate that but it was ALL trial & error trying to figure out what to do because I had NO ROLE MODELS anywhere in my life.

Hmmmm a T telling you to make more friends IRL is just silly. You can't make friends more friends if you don't have friendly people around you. I was friendly & had lots of acquaintances in all my activities when I lived in my marriage but there were none of those people I would have become REAL friends with. I left my marriage & where I'm living now I am surrounded by people who are my friends & some who even as acquaintances are more of a friend than anyone I knew when I was married.

Nah, I wouldn't worry about what your T said either. Friends is a 2 way street & you can't just make people be friends with you...it's something that just happens when the friendship connection is felt......WISE NOT TO WORRY.

LOL I wish my x would read what I post here....he hasn't got a clue as to what his issues were even after spending years & way too much effort trying to communicate & get through his head what the issues were. He would just look at me like I was speaking in a foreign language.....at least now I understand why & I know why I had to leave. Most times leaving doesn't solve any problems.....this became a matter of my sanity which I had almost lost after 33 years in a marriage to someone like him & add to that another 21 years around a dad just like the H. I had to search for sanity after all those years.....not a normal situation for most people.