It's funny that just last session I asked T what her favorite color is. I asked her about 5 years ago and I think she told me a certain blue that I like too. This time she said blues and greens, but she doesn't really have a favorite color.

When I asked her 5 years ago, I asked a lot of other questions like favorite song, movie, book, and even what she was afraid of. It didn't matter what questions; I just wanted to know more about her

She is not secretive except about her boyfriend, and she used to be about her husband too. She volunteered information about her kids, like when she was driving one of them to college. But she doesn't usually talk about herself unless I ask her. When I guessed about her divorce, she answered me. She even answered when I asked if she was living with her boyfriend, and if she was going to get married!

When I ask where she's going when she travels, she tells me. So I think she is kind of secretive because she doesn't volunteer information unless it's relevant to me. When we did EMDR, she told me she used the same kind of experience as I did once. About having toileting accidents in school. She recently volunteered the information that she had to put her dog down and it was difficult.