I see 2 concepts of going with the flow:
1 would be following the crowd & the people around you. That wouldn't fit me because I don't think like others & I don't have the values others have so that wouldn't work.

Other concept is to just not worry about things that happen, don't get upset about it, just let it happen & deal with things as they hit our lives & make the best oh it. I don't do good at that either because I like to have some control over the flow around me but after ALL MY ATTEMPTS at controlling, I will then give in & make the best of it that I can.

For me personally just "going with the flow"feels too out of control.