Having narcissistic tendencies myself, I could see how she would not see this if she wasn't ready to. What puzzeled me was her behaviours - very dramatic in nature, which leads me to think that she may have histrionic traits as well. These two go well together with emotional people. I have these tendencies as well. Is she this way?

Does she not wonder about her state of mind that keeps sending her to the hospital? Although having these diagnoses is unpalatable as traits go on the scale of the ideal personality, if she can be convinced that it is, essentially, the illness itself that keeps her in this state, she may eventually come to terms with it.

I think she has the right to hear it, but she also needs the support to deal with it.

How come her docs haven't helped her through dealing with all this, even if it means keeping her in the hospital?