Because of my partners illnesses I am expected to tolerate his abuse.

Tonight I was awoken by him crashing and banging in the kitchen, when he doesn't come back to bed within a minute or two I know I need to go downstairs​ or it'll be worse. I find him eating but the moment I walk in he's shouting at me for putting food in the wrong place and not getting a clean dish cloth out when I put the last one in the wash. I've already had hell for not behaving/coping with him recently being rushed to hospital with a life threatening asthma attack in a way he approves of.....

These out bursts are almost daily but I also endure prolonged rants which are deliberately vicious; never physical towards me but he will break things trash the house, but because of his OCD and Borderline personality disorder it is expected behaviour. Even at a support group I attend where others have family members with the same or similar illness they endure and expect to suffer such abuse, but as one woman pointed out of her son if she tries to walk away or express how unacceptable the behaviour is it just makes it worse

It's like living with Jekyll and Hyde