My ex t discloses a lot in sessions so I never really had to ask her anything because she would tell me. New t however is more secretive. I am not sure it's secretive, I think it's more like she is giving me the space to explore what I want to explore. I think if I asked a t their favourite colour and they didn't tell me, I would run for the hills. If someone can't tell you that basic question, I mean really who do some therapists think they are. That feels like withholding and power and control. I would try a more relational therapist. I really like those kind of ts.
I think I would prefer a robot than some therapists. I wonder did your family withhold things from you Bluebicycle? I know mine did and they never tell me anything and so I am particularly sensitive around with holding and secrets. I always feel left out and on the outside.
I had a blank slate t once and it was a nightmare for me, the guessing and wondering about her really fuelled my erotic transference.