Katydid boy do I relate to you! Welcome to the Cardiac Club! I was just in CICU for seven days. I had a continous racing heart rate 165+. They had to burn my eléctrical pathway to create a barrier to the bad pathway, so it would be a good puppy, and go back home where it belonged. I also have a brother who is an alcoholic and is a walking, talking trigger. i have helped him four times for weeks on end over the last two years, to no avail. I'm done with him, for my own sanity, and marrage. No mas. Its very, very stressful, and may have contributed to my heart problems. Protect yourself Katydid, at some point you have to cut them lose or they will bring you down with them. Shalom.