"I was friendly & had lots of acquaintances in all my activities when I lived in my marriage but there were none of those people I would have become REAL friends with."

Eskielover, replace the word "none" with "only a few" and that describes how I've felt about friendship my whole life. As a neighbor or a supervisor, I'll go above and beyond for an acquaintance when asked (sold someone's car, taken care of pets during vacations, etc) but deeper friendships and moments happen much less often. Some happen as the friendship grows over time (this is the type that is harder for me cultivate because I am always with my H but he is my friend too)--other times it is an instantaneous connection. I am glad you have found more friends lately.

Prefab, you are far, far from a failure in the friendship department. You just weren't surrounded by enough like minded souls IRL (or may have been depressed back when you felt isolated--it is harder to connect when we are depressed)....