Hi Fuzzy

You're not convincing us that excuse for "faulty" parents!!!
And as you know, I say that there are no excuses

Apart from, in no way was that your fault..........some other parents may develop even more of a bond with their child after a birth like that........having the worries/the fears, the "What if............"s, truely realising how fragile and precious theiir child is at that moment...........bringing out the caring instincts etc..........and the experience and recovery can even help them value their child even more than they may have.

Your parents were "faulty", and every negative thing they told you about yourself was "faulty" because we know that you are none of those things.
Fuzzy, you really have none of that to be ashamed about, the shame should lie with them

Alison