Once again, in many ways your right cielpur.

Ordinarily I would give anyone else the same advice, but it's only more recently that I've seen that things aren't always what they apear on the surface. After we split she was naturally distant, and so I took her at her word, and assumed it was her choice, and that she was happy with it. I even left her alone as the last text she sent me was an angry one.

However, a week or so later she was genuinely baffled and upset that I hadn't called, and when I told her that she angrily told me to get lost, her response was that I know her, and know she doesn't mean it. She honestly believed that I didn't call because I didn't care and had forgotten her. I was equally baffled too as, like you, I believed she was though with it, but then a week later she called crying, saying that she couldn't eat, sleep or concentrate, because she couldn't think of anything else, and was worried I'd moved on and met someone else.

That said, whilst it's been back and forth, it has got easier each time. She is aware of some of her issues, wants to deal with them, and is apolgetic when they have an effect. Add to that what I've learnt in recent weeks, and I do think things could work and improve, if we could get past this current communication block.

So yes, maybe she's through with it, and shutting me out is a way to move on; but equally, if she decides otherwise it's almost impossible for her to do anything about it, as her fears are too strong. As such, I can either remain in limbo, move on myself, or acknowledge that it would have to be me who breaks the ice. Given that it's the latter that's my preference, then I guess my questions are in search of advice from those who have experienced similar feelings, as to how best to do that.