Thanks again sophiesmom,

Oh I'm no saint, and have my flaws too, but I've never been one to judge, and have always looked beneath the surface as to why people act as they do. That's why her moods never affected me, as I knew they weren't personal. If anything, her reactions were mostly due to either her fears of intimacy, or fears of rejection, which in a perverse way shows she cared rather than not.

My best guess now is that she's thinking one of two things. Either she's decided she can't cope with the relationship and focus on her work and studies, and so has shut me out totally to prevent me persuading her otherwise. Maybe she even blames me, in order to make that easier. In which case, does that cool down after a while, and at least allow for friendly communication, even if only as friends?

Or, she might have cooled down, but again either blames me for not trying harder, or assumes I've just forgotten about her and moved on.

So, given all I've said in my posts, is ignoring my previous attempts to reach out just an avoidant way of saying I'm done, or a way of perhaps thinking it, but leaving the door the open? Would you tell someone to leave it and not contact you, or would you find that hard, even if you wanted to?

If I was to contact her, any advice on how to do so that makes it clear I'm still here and interested, but without putting pressure on her. I know from experience, that if she did still have feelings, the she'd likely want all or nothing. She'd find just being friends hard, and so if she thought that's all I wanted she'd just as likely avoid that, and be just as annoyed at not enough commitment, as too much. So, once again, apologies for all the questions but, given that I'd at least like to try, and not give up on her, it's a hard course to chart.