I think if you normalize talk about it with safety time it can heal all wounds set up do what you can to make it okay. Show people doing scary but being okay ultimately television music etc. A safe way to show what you can do to get past the scaryness and not just whimp out.

How long do you go before allowing those scared to be lost because ultimately it isn't worth their approval? 6 months a year when they come up it mostly invalidating or cold because you can't keep worrying about the one that spoils it for the bunch especially is newness is your problem.