Why, when you're all grown up, do you want to be with these women? My T taught me the difference between like and love and I discovered though I loved my stepmother I certainly didn't like her and that made it much easier not to feel like I had to do what she wanted/be with her when we weren't exactly friends? Tell your mother you've made other plans yourself and you don't know who will look after her dogs since she declined your husband and children doing it.