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Old May 13, 2017, 04:25 PM
Robnew Robnew is offline
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Thanks again sophiesmom, and no, I don't just take the words of a stranger. I try to get as many views as possible, from those with experience, so that I'm better equipped to make my own decisions. In that regard you've been very helpful, and I'm grateful.

One thing I never do is make unreasonable proclamations, and rarely make promises, simply because I've never broken one, and my word is important to me, and she knows that.

In the past she's liked my persistence, and has always teased me to admit that I pursued her, whilst I always teased her by being guarded. So no, I don't think she feels she's not worth my trouble. I do think she's sometimes insecure about how I feel, and that I may lose interest, even though I've told her I wouldn't. However, this time is the first she's ever ignored me in this way. I can't help feeling that it's largely down to her work and studies, and that had the timing been different it would have been resolved more quickly. I think I also pushed her away further by saying I'd give her space when she was withdrawing, instead of just riding it out.

Ultimately time is the deciding factor, and whether that time and space allows her to shut off and move on completely, or cool down and at least soften towards any renewed attempt at contact.

Obviously initially she wanted that door open, by moving nearby, and maintaining contact, and I'm hoping those feelings remain, or will return once the drama and upset of her study issues subside.

So, thank you for your advice on how to approach things. Ultimately any contact will be accepted, welcomed, dismissed or resented. That's something no one can predict, and so all I can do is approach it in the best way possible and hope for the best.

Thanks again.
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