I think I wouldn't tolerate a T who would casually tell me things, I would feel violated. I must say that I generally don't understand the concept of bonding over small things. I guess it is because I just don't bond with people at all.

Over the four years I've seen him he has actually answered quite a few questions, but only when he figures that it's somehow in my benefit. Recently, he answered the question about what he was planning to do over a long weekend and what he is doing together with his children. However, from my side, these questions were not (are my questions never are) raised out of curiosity, I don't experience curiosity to the person he is, I feel I couldn't care less. If I dig out information about him (and I've googled him extensively) or ask questions then it is always because I want to establish that he is a safe person.

Sometimes I ask to test him whether he understands when he should answer a question and when not. Sometimes he has failed that test, answering a question when he shouldn't, meaning, that he imagined that there is more connection between us than there really was.