I appreciate the replies! Kashi is primarily a dbt therapist and cbt secondarily. But my last t was strongly cbt so I don't see it as much in kashi.

I definitely want to talk to him about what changed. Today he said that he knows me better. I don't know that I buy that. He doesn't know how I am as a driver beyond what I tell him. I personally feel like he changed his boundary because he wants me to like him more. I already like him.

Today I feel badly that I was giving off body language that I did not want a hug at the end of my he session. Of course I do but I've never had a t offer it almost every session. It was making me wonder about my own motives conscious or not. Or maybe his.

To be honest I've had odd moments of feeling a spark towards him but I don't want another crush on a t. Been there done that. Sometimes he will do or say something effeminate and my gut reaction is "um, no" in a anti romantic knee jerk reaction. Sometimes I just feel a strong affinity for him like we were some kind of kindred spirits. It's confusing.

He has shared some of his past but when it comes to abuse not details. I don't think he talks about himself too much. I just get a sense that my craving for care and his need for approval may interlock in unhealthy ways if we are not careful.