I've had some of those weird similarity moments with MC, too. For one, we both have anxiety issues, though lots of people have those. And our minds work similarly, from things he's said (like "I do X too, so I get it"). And ways stuff from our past has affected us being parents--like recently he was saying how his father was emotionally absent, and he found himself overcompensating with his kids because of it. And he sensed I was doing something simiilar with my daughter.

In many ways, it's a positive thing for me because I genuinely feel understood--not just like "Oh, I learned about that in grad school" but "I've experienced that myself." However, not sure yet if this is a positive or negative thing, but it definitely contributed/contributes to the transference. I'm not sure if he's done things for me that he hasn't done for others--I know he has other couples/marriage counseling clients, but I don't know if he allows individual out-of-session contact with any members of those couples like he does with me. I do know he texts, e-mails, and talks on the phone with other individual clients. But I have no idea how often or what his boundaries are with them. (With T, I think the only ones she e-mails with regularly are me and one other client, from what she's said).

And of course I don't know how this therapeutic relationship will end, so I can't advise you on that part. I definitely think talking about it with Kashi is a good idea (and he definitely seems like he'd be open to talking about it). That's what's helped me with MC. And I did end up, partly through his disclosures, partly through outside stuff, learn more about his personal life than he necessarily intended me to know (the stuff about his wife). Which complicated the relationship a bit. But that's been (at least mostly) resolved through talking about it with him, even though some of the conversations were difficult, and I hadn't been sure of his willing to talk about some issues. I really think communication is key.

As for the driving, as someone else suggested, it could be that Kashi either contacted his insurance about it or mentioned it to a supervisor or colleague, and they told him how he could avoid liability.Like maybe someone else had done that for one of their clients, for example. It sounds like he really cares about you, but difficult to tell from here if it's too much or whether it will lead to problems in your relationship.