I think you have to "feel the love". Thats why we - okay, i - be in therapy. And you have to survive bad times together. Rupture, repair, repeat. Ruptures dont matter if you keep a person at arms length all the time. You havent lost anything.

So you know how after youre married, the sound of them stirring their coffee with a spoon will make you want to kill them? So its probably good that there are things about kashi that you find unappealing - it makes it more like a real life relationship; there is this symbol of dislike in it. So you can work on perfecting the symbol of love in your heart. Its the crack that makes the thing more beautiful. But also keeps it from functioning in real life as a bowl or a bell. Or a real relationship. What is that called in japanese again?