Unfortunately we can not chose our parents. But, we can choce how we deal with them

I am the fathe rof a teen that was cutting for a while. He had been through a great deal not the least of which was the divorce between his mom and I. His mom is a very manipulative and emotionally unstable individual. She is verbablly abusive and does a better job of robbing someone of their self esteem than anyone I know. That is why I left her.

With me gone her next best target was my son. He would complain bitterly about how he felt that his mom didn't feel that he was good enough, smart enough, whatever. Fortunately his mom cares enough about him to take him to counseling and a pdoc and he is on medication. Plus, in a rational moment, she knows what she does is swrong, she simply can not control it.

I had to step in and tell her VERY bluntly and directly waht she was doing to the kids. Not surprisingly I received some fallout from this and the kids were grilled about my comments. But, I didn't back off, as a result things seemed to have improved.

The bottom line is again, we can't chose our parents. And sometimes, even with good intentions, parents ahve their own demons they are battling. You need to try and do your best to be strong, rise above the issues with your mom and be the best person you can be. Do not let her issues and her problems bring you down.

My thoughts are with you.