I feel guilty when I choose my wife over my kids and I feel guilty when I choose my kids over my wife. And I feel like it would be better to separate because why the hell do I feel like I need to choose one over the other???
(Rhetorical--I know the answer: my wife is far more controlling and strict than anyone else I know and I believe that short term and long term some of it is great and some of it is really bad for the kids)