I can do lots of things....basically most things I set my mind to unless prysical limitstions get in the way....but usually I push those limitations until I PROVE to myself they are REAL.

The thing is that sometimes just because we CAN DO something, it's not always the WISE THING for us to do.

Even with my mom, I pushed to stay with her in spite of my injured foal that was an hour away & required daily care because I sensed something seriously was not right with the home care person situation. I pushed my stress level thatwas already on overload to the point where the trauma I experienced ended up causing PTSD because my resilliance was so low & stress always caused me a sick feeling which landed me dealing with anorexia at the point my mom died, I was in the medical hospital being treated. The price on our own physical & mental well being can be costly & we dont even realize its happening because we are so busy focusing on the person we are caring for.

The resentment & anger I ended up having to deal with after my mom died was definitely NOT easy to deal with. I am ok 12 years later but those first 6 years were not good.

I sensed what was happening which was why I found a good nursing home for my mom after her last hospitalization & told her at that point she didnt have any better options left. Sad....YES....but it was the best choice I could have made.