I had a similar trying relationship with my brother who was also 2 years older than me. I took me long to understand that he was simply different and had many mental issues I did not have to struggle with. He died many years ago and I'm still very sorry that I did not just love him for who he was. Okay, when you are young you want a brother you can be proud of and he was not the typical brother you can be proud of just like that; and there is also very much competition among brothers. Are you jealous that he get's so much 'undeserved' attention from your parents? Is he depressed? You should be aware that it is hard for him to live such a low-energy life? Judging from your post her you are the lucky one because you have the power to have a good life. Keep that in mind. Don't hate him or feel angry with him. It is indeed a waste of your energy. Have you ever talked to him about his life? Why he has not got any bigger plans? When I was your age, I moved away, becauce I always wanted to. I do not know, whether this is an option for you. Sometimes a certain geographic distance really helps to clear things up and you will see better what you want in life. I have the impression that you discover your chances and do not circle so much about familiy. But as I said before, I do not know, whether or not moving away and having an independent life is what you want.