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Originally Posted by Erebos
Is not to instill our own fears and failures onto our children.
Not to burden them with our insecurities.
I learnt the hard way you can't hide this stuff from them.
And naming it and discussing it,takes a lot of the power from these things.
Eugh, but I am still working on it.
By the way is guilt just a default setting all parents have?
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I'm not sure if default or social construct?
My oldest is 14 now, I want to say that he was 12 when he very seriously asked me, "how the heck did you survive your childhood?" He and his brothers had spent some time with my father.
I refuse to victimize myself to the weight of the world. That Jung quote ^^ speaks volumes, to me. I don't see an unlived life in terms of the sowing of wild oats, but more of etching my identity beyond motherhood.
Refusing to accept guilt for circumstances beyond my control/capacity. Whilst accepting responsibility for what belongs to me. And working on that.