I know this couple who always pretend nothing happened, when things don't go the way they like. They both do it and they are both happy with it. It works for them. Personally I couldn't live that way. I feel I have to express myself, and if I am stiffled I either go mad or I feel like I have lost part of myself by trying to deny how I feel.

Every couple will determine what works best through trial and error. I know this isn't a solution but I hope it helps to know you are not alone in your struggles.

Linda