It must have been tough to make the step you made. But homecare can be very inadequate. There is a home attendant comes to my bf. I don't let her do showers. She can't cook. Mainly she's handy for errands, laundry and vacuuming . . . and she's very sweet to my guy. Soon we're going yo have some funds from the VA to pay for more help. I guess I'll see how that goes. Really capable caregivers are very hard to find, unless you're real lucky.