I am curious, how happy are you in this relationship? The fact that you are worried he will throw you out concerns me...how good can a relationship be if you fear that your significant other would throw you onto the streets for cleaning his house?

Do you work or receive any social assistance? Maybe you could save up money to have people come clean the house while he is around to supervise the process, or save up to get your own place if you feel you can't live in this situation anymore.