I've always been taught that if you want a friend, be a friend. That the responsibility is ours.

Well, I've done that my whole life, been the good friend, only to get misused, backstabbed, and bullied. Or easily replaced.

A recent example is of a friend. We will call her Amelia. Me and Amelia were always friends, though she held herself at a distance. Amelia and this other girl were close, but then (because of crazy circumstances) they had a friendship breakup. So, after that, me and Amelia got closer. Hung out lots, talked tons, were bosom buddies. Very tight. I was there for her when everyone else had deserted her. So, We're very very close for a couple years.

Then, the other girl all of a sudden decides "I want to be friends with Amelia" again, and after one talk, they're best buds again. ...And I barely hear from Amelia now.

That's just one example of that happening. There are many more in my lifetime.