I think common sense is more important than intelligence....I was married to a guy with a very high IQ & Like you, I valued intelligence. I thought thst was the key ingredient missing in my parents. Turned out that highly intelligent guy turned out to be just like my dad....just as unable to emotionally connect & just as unable to communicate in a rational way. That kind of being different just wasnt what makes a marriage work & personally realized I needed to rethink that value I had held high for all my life.

I do very much appreciate intelligent CARING people who I can communicate with though