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Originally Posted by Rose76
I think I'm so determined to do what I want to believe I can do . . . and I manage the doing, so I think that proves I can. But it is becoming clearer every week that my welfare on a number of fronts is suffering. Then I think, "Well, that's the sacrifice I choose to make." But I wonder, if I'll look back years from now and say, "Yes, it was worth it."? - or - will I then think I was a fool. ?
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I know the feeling so well! It sounds like you really have done what you can, and that you will be able to know that at some point. Your health is Important--physical and mental. And, you want to look back and feel good about the time spent. (sometimes it helps to think "How much would I want someone to do for me once it impacted them negatively?"---(hug(
I think, without the right support, sometimes even with, there comes a time when you reach your limits and it is best for both/everyone involved to be able to "let go" of being the caregiver.
The in home services I know are not adequate as they have so many restrictions (I helped care for my neighbor's wife daily for some time because the people, even the nurses, who came from support services were limited in what they were allowed to do by Policy and Procedure of their agencies. I did some volunteer work in this area and even though I am an RN, I could not actually give the person their medication, I could make them available---needless to say taking meds incorrectly is common (in general) when someone is ill and I did a bit more than "make available"....I couldn't watch someone take the wrong dose/medication....etc....or let someone unsafe manage their own bathing when they needed help that I could offer...
Now, I work with kids and it does lighten the heart a bit....