Disability feels defeating in so many ways. I could make a never ending list of the ways. It's also so helpful and I could list a million reasons for that too. At the end of the day, it's not a choice we want to make or wish to be in a situation where we need to make it....it just is what needs to be done and when you decide it needs to be done, better to get the ball rolling sooner than later cause it's not a fast process for most. (((Hugs)))