Well, probably those old enmeshed family relationships are no longer a barrier and you could create the life you want yourself, also without therapists given that it sounds like therapy was not a very satisfying approach for you? I am with BayBrony here: there are so many things we can do to feel better about ourselves. Therapy is really just one thing, it works for some but is completely useless for others, no matter how "good" a T is. I, for one, completely disagree with the notion many therapists claim, that the best way to "fix" things that go wrong in relationships in early life is through better personal relationships. For some, yes, but I don't think it's the same for everyone. There are many ways to discover personal values, contribute to society and create benefit for ourselves and others that do not involve directly pleasing other people emotionally or even connecting in very personal ways. So many ways to connect to our inner source and create a sense of identity and self worth. Instead of looking for and getting frustrated about what's missing, focusing on what is indeed there or creating it.