I have been in a relationship and living with someone that has BPD (my opinion). He would NEVER go to the doctor. I have suggested it.

He breaks up with me quite frequently. We are very compatible and enjoy our time together. I don't think I am as bad as he says - I am financially independent and I am faithful. The last couple of times he broke up with me and told me what a bad person I am, I told him to leave. Then he starts crying and says he doesn't know what is wrong with him.

Any advice on how I can handle this? My heart can only handle so much. I do not feel secure in this relationship at all. Is it fair for me to live like this - not knowing where I stand day to day?