I think part of me would feel also that maybe T isn't up to helping me if she/he is needing group support and ideas on my case...of course this isn't the only way to look at it, but one of the things that would run along with the "yes it can only help me" feelings too...I think maybe I'd really talk about this somemore and take a rain check on this months meeting until you really understand how it will work for you???/