((((( So leigheas )))))

I haven't found you to be any of those things

In my experience, those who are insensitive, crappy friends and relatives etc rarely question themselves

Someone else planted those noxious words and thoughts. I'm not sure how to rid someone of those messages either. Good therapy can help. So can good friends who "get us" .. As we both know, some people are "in therapy" for years. I hope you don't give up