then if thats the case then moms should also know that when youre bareing your soul that is the last thing you want to hear.

plus my mom knows that she could never say that. her whole family hated my dad and then he turned out to be the person they thought he was. so she would understand, i think.

i guess i just cant decide if its better for me to tell her and deal with everything that comes with it, or just live in fear.