Thanks again cielpur, you're right.

However, before I could make contact to find out why she was ignoring me, the inevitable happened, and we bumped into each other in the street, as I was on my way out, and she was on her way home from work. On the plus side I found out why she's been ignoring me but, on the minus side, I'm still none the wiser as to why it's such an issue, and with seemingly no way to overcome it.

Anyway, when we met it started off ok, with cautious greetings, and how are you's, what have you been doing etc. I suggested an "awkward hug" and she said no, as she was in an odd mood as she'd been on coke, which isn't something she would do often. I said it was funny we bumped into each other, as I'd been thinking about her earlier, to which she half jokingly said I shouldn't think about her. So far, so good.

I said I was on my way out, and we both said see you later. I was happy to leave it at that for now, with lines of communication re opened, rather than get into anything on the street, and said it was good to her see her, and apologised for not being in touch these last weeks, but said I assumed she was busy. She said she was, but then she raised the phone call I made about giving her space, about 6 weeks ago. I knew all along this must have been what angered her, and pushed her away, but had no idea why.

I apologised and said I agree it probably wasn't a good idea, but tried to explain that I could see she was under pressure at the time, and that me wanting her back while she was busy and confused was just adding to it, and that I was trying to be nice by saying I'd back off and give her space. She said I shouldn't have called her at work to tell her that, and so I said I only did it then because I was going to be away for a few days, and wanted to tell her before I went. She responded by saying that was just me putting my bs on her (I have no idea what she meant by that), and that in any case she didn't want to discuss it on the street. I didn't know what to say at that point, as she was clearly in no mood to talk, and so we parted, and I just said sorry. She was clearly agitated and a bit angry by the end, but only because she raised the issue of what really bugged her, but didn't want to talk about it. I know this will now sit with her, and whilst we've gone a couple of months without bumping each other, I'm sure she'll now be stressed in case it happens again. So, it started out as naturally awkward, but then ended with her obviously still upset and angry about that phone call.

Because of how she reacted at the time, I always knew deep down that was the issue, but in all honesty I have no idea why, or why it's still such a big deal. My intention was to back off and give her space, as it was clear she was backing away, and so I thought it was a good thing. She obviously see's it in a completely different light, big enough to still hold a grudge about it. Of course there's no way of clearing the air on it, as she obviously doesn't want to talk about it.

If I'd done something bad, like cheating, or even constantly chasing her, then I guess I'd understand. But to be angry about a phone call, no matter how she may have interpreted it, and still be angry about it now, is something I just can't work out.

I'm now completely at a loss, as I'd give anything to know why that phone call was such a big deal, but of course after today I'm in no position to even contact her now, let alone ask. So, whilst I have part of answer, things are somewhat worse.