What I'm saying is, if your bf reports to the police that you hired people to do something in the house while he was away, the police will not do anything. Many people have the idea that the police get involved with personal situations. They don't. They won't. The only time they get involved is if there is physical abuse and someone is left with marks of the abuse on his/her body.

How can your bf throw you out?

I don't know what the law in New Jersey is, but here in California if someone receives mail at an address for three months they are considered a legal resident of that address and cannot be thrown out.

2 years ago I had a situation in which I was living in a house with my cats and a room-mate. Room-mate trashed the place. Room-mate had not payed a dime toward rent or anything else for over a year. I begged for help from the police on several occasions. There was nothing they could do. All they told me was that if I was unhappy with the situation, I (yep, I!) should move out. Bear in mind, I was paying full rent and ALL other expenses for myself and for my room-mate.

Well, one night my room-mate (who I strongly suspect was using meth) threatened me. I was really scared. I mean, REALLY scared. I put my cats in my car, grabbed my family photographs, my computer, and the very few things I could fit in my trunk and LEFT. I went to a different town and restarted my life. I notified the landlord of my previous residence that there was someone living there and I hadn't been able to get the person out.

I was DONE.

Lost most of what I had owned. Had to let it go. My cats were far more important to me than any possession I owned. I cut off all contact with my room-mate; I don't know what happened to that person. I only know that the police never did anything to assist in any way, and I know my cats and I were finally safe.

If what you say is true, that you were never very happy with your bf, and you're having to live in the horrible mess he made, and you wouldn't live like that were it not for him, what are you doing staying there? This is your life, you know what I mean?