This of course assumes that learning not to be lonely while being alone will result in friends. But in my experience it is exactly the opposite. A lot of people see that you are ok without anyone and thus realize that you probably won't be tempted "trapped" by he promise of their friendship. So they find other people who will be controlled by their friendship.

You should never learn to be alone for the ulterior motive of getting friends because that just might not happen and probably won't.

Learning to be alone for its own sake can be a transformative experience. Remember we all come into this world alone and leave it that way. There will be times in this world when your husband isn't around or you are in a hospital bed and it sure will be easier on you if you have learned to be alone.

Yesterday I had an upsetting thing happen and there was no one around to talk to about it. So I just used it as an opportunity to learn to deal with it internally and made it a game not to say anything. It actually made things easier. I realized that repeating bad stories and NOT getting what you are looking for from others can be exhausting and frustrating.

How did people in the olden days make it? People lived alone and miles from anyone. They didn't have internet and bearly had a book. Yet they survived. I can't help but think we have gone too far the other way.