Hmmmm, there were a few years during my 13 black hole years where my being a victim could have easily created (& probably did) a toxic person out of me.

Interesting thought about being judgmental. We all have some judgmental in us. Just judging a person to be toxic or not in its own way is being judgmental....after all being the toxic person they are may just be their passion.....I chose to use the word DISCERNING for that rather than judgmental