Good questions and I do hear what you are saying, one survivor to another.

Considering how the court system is set up, I believe that it's really valid to get the victim to truly believe it for what it is-abuse and convince a court and society that these are not "manufactured" claims. I lived through 3 various attempts to get a restraining order beyond the emergency status. The 3rd stuck, he was also facing criminal charges by the district attorney's office at that time.

I think it's fair to ask someone to slow down on being quick to label, after all, recovering from domestic violence is as much about looking at yourself, how do you get here and how to stay out of these scenarios in the future as pointing fingers, not that victims should not be given ample support and validation as well as encouragement to call a hotline and establish a safety plan.