I think it would depend on if this scenario had happened before and what the results then had been. If I had done this before, the earlier outcomes might be recalled; if it was a new response, my T couldn't know what I was upset about if I hadn't been discussing it. I usually keep talking though, through my tears, keep explaining and thinking things through.

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i am unhappy yes. hurt yes. not knowing how to process.

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Look "beyond" the unhappiness and hurt, to the actual subject under discussion. Put the feelings aside as they're just markers to tell us where to dig for the gold.