confused, if it were me, I would probably participate. But I can understand how it might be stressful. I would ask for a list of the questions in advance that T planned to ask me in front of all these therapists so that I would not be surprised and could better answer them. If he were unable to give me such a list, I might possibly decline to participate. Also, even if you choose not to be there, they could still have their meeting and discuss your case, relying on your T for all of the information. So your T can still get the feedback he needs whether you are there or not. BTW, from what you have written, I think your T is doing a great job of supporting you. So I wonder what he needs help on? If it were me, that is a question I would ask my T. I would say something like, "T, you have been supporting me so well in these difficult times and I really appreciate it. What aspects of my case are you uncertain about and feel you need the advice of other therapists on?"

If you do participate, just remember it is voluntary and you can leave at any time if things get uncomfortable for you. Just push back your chair from the table, thank them for their time, and excuse yourself.