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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
I do agree with what you are saying about the victim needing to figure out how he or she ended up in the situation - but I also think it's harder for the victim to do that when he or she ends up needing to defend herself or himself not only against the abuser but against society at large. It makes a person need to be "steel" in order to survive long enough to get out - and once out - learning to be "flexible" and consider that not only do you now have freedom n may make mistakes - but that you somehow contributed to landing yourself in the situation you barely scraped out of, is enough to almost drive you mad.
If there was more acceptance in the forefront, healing may be easier and more complete later.
Wouldn't you think?
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I hear what you are saying.
One thing that comes to mind, the statistics of it taking up to 8 attempts to leave an abuser.
Is it really because society expects one to be made of steel? Or does it have much to do with codependency?
It's not usual that all was lovey dovey and a bed of roses from the first moment. I've encountered more survivors that more oft than not will say, the signs were there from day 1. But were overlooked because of whatever reason.