Katydid my experience now is that it is good to talk to someone about your experiences. He doesn't have to get into gory details, just speak in more general terms. Keeping it inside all the time is not good. On the other hand obsessing about traumas doesn't help him to stabilize or normalize back into society. He needs to find a balance. Lots of association and time with kids and animals helps me alot. A lot of hugs from mom helps alot, too. Shalom.